It is inevitable when you are planning a wedding that you will hit a few minor bumps in the road. After all, no one is perfect. However, there are some pretty big mistakes that are very common. Here are the top 7 wedding planning blunders, and how to make sure they do not happen to you.
One: Booking vendors before you have done your homework. Many a bride has rushed out and booked the hottest reception site in town only to later learn that a) her church is not available on that date or b) it is way too small to fit all of the guests. Before you put down a penny with any vendor, be sure that you know all of the basics, such as the number of guests on both sides of the family, the date your church is available, and the general style of wedding you would like to have.
Two: Ordering your wedding gown too small as “motivation” or buying a too-small dress because it is a good deal. Oh please, please do not do this to yourself! The last thing any woman needs before her wedding is the added stress of having to try to change her body to fit into a dress. It is far better to buy your gown in your current size and then change the gown to fit you, should you slim down. And that way if you don’t lose any weight, at least you won’t have to lose any sleep wondering how on earth you are going to squeeze into your dress on the wedding day. It seems like a lot of brides also forget that their fiances loved them just the way they were when they asked them to get married, “perfect” or not.
Three: Biting off more than you can chew. Fancy yourself the next Martha Stewart? Keep in mind that even the great Martha has a staff to help her execute all of those fabulous craft projects. In other words, one woman cannot make everything for her wedding and also keep her sanity. Some things to scratch off the list: taking a course in jewelry making so you can handcraft the bridesmaid gifts (just pick out pretty bridesmaid jewelry in a store), making chocolate truffles for the wedding favors, and embroidering your own veil. Keep your expectations realistic and limit yourself to one or two projects that you know you can manage, such as printing invitations or learning enough calligraphy to write out the place cards.
Four: Not getting enough postage. The chances are very slim that your wedding invitation takes the same amount of postage as your phone bill. Take one of your invitations (with all of the enclosures) to the post office to have it weighed and determine the correct postage. Better still, take all of your invitations and hand cancel them after putting on the stamps. It looks much prettier than a commercial machine cancel and will not crush any ornaments like bows that you may have in your envelopes.
Five: Obsessing over perfection. I guarantee you that something will go wrong at your wedding, no matter how meticulously you plan. For instance at my wedding, the priest knocked over one of the floral displays on the altar during the ceremony and I dropped part of a stuffed mushroom on the bodice of my custom gown. So what? It was a great day anyway, and at some point you just have to let go of fussing over everything and simply enjoy your wedding.
Six: Leaving things to the last minute. The day before (or Heaven forbid, the morning of) your wedding is no time to be cranking out programs, writing place cards, or wrapping favors. Have all of these things done at least five days before your wedding so you do not lose beauty sleep over them on your wedding eve.
Seven: Last, but certainly not least, blowing your budget. It is all to easy to get swept away in the moment and decide to splurge on things in order to bring your dream wedding to life. However, all of those little splurges can quickly add up into a mountain of debt. Don’t start out your married life in a hole: decide on your budget early on and vow to stick to it. It may not be easy along the way, but when all is said and done, you will be very happy that you kept your promise to yourself.